Tuesday, Sept. 23, was Bisexual Visibility Day, and man, do people need to made aware of us. We may not be a big group -- only 0.7 percent of Americans identify as bisexual -- but that doesn't mean we aren't here. In fact, our small numbers just might represent the fact that as a group, bisexual people are often especially stigmatized.
Don't get it twisted: Bisexual individuals can definitely benefit from heterosexual privilege, in so far as they have the ability to be in "socially acceptable" relationships, where as gay and lesbian people may not.
But from being told our orientation doesn't exist, to being accused of lying to get attention, the experience of coming out as bisexual comes with its own list of unique difficulties. The misconceptions about what it means to be bi are so common that even Anna Paquin had to school Larry King on bisexuality when he asked her some quintessentially ignorant questions earlier this year. Read more
Friday, October 24, 2014
Suzanne Samin tries to erase some misconceptions about bisexual women.
Friday, October 17, 2014
If oral sex is a challenge for you, then following these three stimple steps can help you to become a master of cunnilingus.
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
Megan Reynolds ranks ten places to have sex from best to worst.
Most people have sex in the pedestrian enclaves of their bedroom, on a Wednesday night, after prime-time television but before “The Daily Show.” It’s a simple affair, but it’s beautiful, because it works. The bedroom is a safe space with ALL the creature comforts you want when you’re doing it: clean sheets, water in plentiful abundance, all the lube you’d ever need, and at the end of everything, a bathroom you can scurry to when the deed is done so you don’t get a bladder or yeast infection. For most, this kind of sexual adventurousness is fine. There are some, however, that comb this earth, armed with a sexual bucket list, intent on doing it in any space two people can feasibly fit. If you find yourself with one of these sexual Lewis and Clarks, be prepared. Arm yourself with this list of places to have sex, ranked from best to worst, and be ready to face whatever challenge they’ve got in mind head on. Read more
Monday, October 13, 2014
Science says 60 percent of women are attracted to other women. Are you one of them?
Like most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being open to experimentation ("Of course I would sleep with Halle Berry! It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity"). For women, it's perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to research, it's the norm.
A study reveals that women's sexual preferences tend to be a gray area (yep, identity confusion wasn't just for those college dorm days). In fact, researchers at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex. Read more
Friday, October 10, 2014
Monday, October 6, 2014
You know that the butt, breasts, and genitals are erogenous zones, but there are five you may be overlooking.
When it comes to foreplay, most focus on the major erogenous zones: lips, butt, breasts, and genitals. Well, we're here to tell you to skip the nips and the booty and check out these five erogenous zones you're missing out on: Read more
Friday, October 3, 2014
Sexpert Jenny Block says that if you want great sex, think like a lesbian.
It's bad news right from the start. Just check out the title -- "15 ways to turn a good girl bad: Six sexperts suggest 15 ways to make her great in bed (without her even noticing)."
So, let me get this straight. Being bad in bed is equal to being a good girl and being good in bed makes you a bad girl and you have to "make" her good in bed without her noticing? Because... She couldn't or wouldn't want to do it on her own?
I could write a whole essay just responding to that incredibly offensive and disempowering titled. But there's so much more to get to here. And if I was a guy, I would be hopping mad about this crappy "advice," because I'm mad enough as a girl who sleeps with girls for all of us.
Here are some of the real peaches in this charming piece. Read more