As a guy, it's a thought that's probably crept into your mind at least once: Is she faking it? Ladies can be phenomenal fakers (I mean, you've seen that scene in When Harry Met Sally, and then hopefully this recent reenactment) and they can translate a "dude, time to wrap it up" signal into a convincing moan.
Just consider it one of their better between-the-sheets skills. But are either sexes benefiting from a false finish? And who are the biggest fakers of all? There's a lot of curiosity surrounding the topic and several studies have illuminated some remarkable facts as researchers look to getting to the bottom of faking the big "O". Read more
Friday, December 6, 2013
Fear of intimacy, a sign she's cheating, and more things you didn't know about faking it are revealed by Alexandra Churchill.
Friday, November 22, 2013
Even the existence of female ejaculation is still controversial, so it's not surprising that some misinformation may be out there. Ami Angelowicz debunks six myths about squirting.
Female ejaculation has been called the “one of the most hotly debated questions in modern sexology” because no one has been able to crack the code about how or why it happens. We can agree that squirting is the expulsion of fluid through and around the urethra during or before an orgasm. For most women, it’s the unicorn of sexual experiences, meaning we have only dreamed of meeting it face to face. This explains why there are so many urban legends about a friend of a friend of a cousin who could do it on command every time. And you’re like, “Gee thanks, that really helps me understand this thing.” It may be a while before we have definitive answers, but in the meantime we can break down some of the existing myths about squirting. Read more
Monday, November 18, 2013
Friday, November 15, 2013
Many women say that they love or hate blow jobs, but are such blanket statements really necessary - or even true?
When it comes to giving oral sex, or as one of my friends calls it, sucky sucky, women seem to fall into two camps: LOVE IT or HATE IT. When gossiping about sex, I feel this overwhelming pressure to declare that I go hog wild for head or loathe it so much that I’ve taken it off the sexual menu with the exception of special occasions, like birthdays. (I’ve never understood that, by the way. Why would you give the gift of something you supposedly hate?) On the subject of blowjobs, there is a subtle urging to take sides. “Too much work!” or “Yummy! Cock!” As I sit there, feeling terribly neutral about the act, I can’t help but suspect that women have been conditioned to have strong, polarized feelings about giving head — or at least to play up their feelings for effect.
May I present a radical idea: Sucky sucky is not something you should love or hate. There are so many factors which influence a blowjob — who, when, how many times you’ve sucked it, where, what time of day, and whether or not you’re receiving oral sex at the same time — that make any kind of generalized statement about the act impossible. In the Buddhist sense, it’s neither good nor bad. A blowjob just is. Read more
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Here's another reason to work out with your wife or girlfriend - exercise-induced orgasms.
Next time you head to the gym for a workout, take your girlfriend with you. Don’t be surprised, though, if she has a better time than you. A new study estimates that 15 percent of women have experienced an orgasm during exercise. Tales of women having orgasms while doing yoga or riding bikes have been circling the Internet for years, but this is the first study to ask women in detail about the unexpected benefits of exercise. Read more
Monday, November 11, 2013
There are all sorts of dynamics at play for couples going through a dry spell, according to Dr. Michael Aaron.
As a sex therapist, I often work with long-term, committed couples struggling with a variety of sexual difficulties. The most common issue is the problem of mismatched sexual desires. The partner who wants sex more often usually ends up feeling rejected, wondering whether their partner still finds them sexually attractive or whether he or she is cheating on the sly. If one partner seems suddenly to have lost interest in sex or is pulling away after years of closeness, the real reasons often have very little to do with attraction or infidelity. Sometimes the problem is blamed on porn, especially if the partner pulling back is a male who was caught consuming or watching it, in lieu of being physically intimate with his partner. However, increased porn viewing is often the symptom, rather than the cause of lack of desire. Read more
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Out of all the sex positions in the Kama Sutra, three are emphasized as being better than all the others, says Jennifer Lawless.
The Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian book that was written to teach men how to have a happy marriage. It’s chiefly famous for describing the arts of lovemaking. Despite being centuries old, the Kama Sutra is still just as fun to try today. There are many sex positions described in the chapter covering the sexual union between couples, but there are three positions which are emphasized and described as being better than all the others. These are known as the three secret positions. Read more