(1) Get her into a comfortable position and situation.
The best place to give a massage is when her lying nude on a warm, padded surface. A romantic mood can be fostered with dim lights and soothing instrumental music. Turn off cell phones to avoid any distraction. Before starting the massage, make sure you are relaxed, too.
(2) Have lubricants prepared.
Make sure you have some massage oil. This will allow your hands to glide smoothly across her skin. If your massage include the genitals, avoid using oil-based lubricants. They are not so easy to wash away, which can promote bacterial growth resulting in yeast infection. Make sure the water-based lubricant does not contain any Nonoxynol-9 because this can cause irritation. Never apply the oil or lotion directly onto her body. Apply it first to your hands and then rub it onto her body.
(3) Maintain communication
During both the general and the erotic massage, it is important for her to feel comfortable enough to make any requests and comments. It is a good idea to look into your partner's eyes while your hands are on her genitals sp that you can adjust your strokes based on her responses. Also, letting your receiving partner knows you enjoy giving her pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for her.
(4) Watch your body posture and strokes
Keep your hands in contact with your partner as much as possible. Take your time, being rhythmic, yet sensitive. Progress from long, gliding strokes to deep ones. When giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanic. Use your body weight rather than your arm strength for deep strokes and during gliding strokes, keep your knees slightly bent.
(5) Back, sides, and buttocks
Continue with this circular motion on each side of the spine extending to the sides and lower back. Besides this, you rub in a diagonal motion on each side of the spine. You can also straighten both hands one on each side of the spine, you lean forward using your body weight not using the force of your hands to press down on the back. You do this from the middle to the lower part of the back. Using the inside of your forearm, you slowly rub one buttocks cheek at a time in a large circular motion. After that you make a fist and roll your knuckles, one by one, over the triangular bone at her lower back which is helpful for relieving stress.
(6) Legs and feet
Grab her ankle and massage with your thumbs and fingers all the way up her leg. However, do not use too much pressure behind the knees to avoid hurting the sensitive veins there. For the feet, you use your thumbs to massage the soles in circular motion. Then massage each toe by lightly squeezing it between your thumb and index finger and gently pulling on each one.
(7) Neck and shoulders
Assuming your partner is now lying face down, the upper part of her body is the right place to start with because a lot of tension is built up there. Use your fingertips to slowly and gently knead (not pinch) on the shoulders. For the neck, place one hand on each side of the neck, and then move your hands in slow and gentle circles.
(8) Head and face
To massage the head, your partner should be lying on her back facing you. You do not need any massage oil, so use a towel to wipe the oil off your hands. Then use the tips of your first two or three fingers to gently rub in a circular motion over her temples. With your thumb and first finger, rub her ear lobes and ears and then lightly run your fingers across her entire face.
9) Breasts
A woman's breasts may be very sensitive, so do not handle them roughly. A light, flowing stroke is best, especially to start with. Slow massage strokes usually feel better than fast massage ones. Generally, begin with circular stokes, and then you can try figure eight strokes.
(10) Vulva and clitoris
The vulva is the outer area of a woman's vagina. It is extremely sensitive to soft touches. You can begin arousing her by pressing your hand against her vulva and then massaging her gently. Your movements should be circular or going back and forth. You can hold the lips of her vulva and gently rub them against one another. You can even try pinching them very gently. Don't squeeze her vulva with your hand. This is a common mistake people make.
You can try stimulating the clitoris together with the vulva massage also. Many people mistakenly believe that, since the clitoris is an extremely erogenous zone, all the focus of lovemaking should be there. However, the surrounding areas are extremely sensitive also. They can excite her to the point where she will welcome a touch on her clitoris.
The art of massage, and particularly erotic massage, has taken a backseat when it comes to sex. Be an original lover and give her a night that she will want to repeat. Remember that if you treat her to this, chances are that she'll repay you with a little favor that you'll greatly appreciate.
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