Sexual Pleasure

Women's Top 5 Sexual Fantasies - and What They Mean

2012-02-28T06:00:00.001-05:00

Sexual daydreams are totally normal. Here's what the most common ones say about you.

1. Sex with another man (usually he's a celebrity). This doesn't mean you're dissatisfied with your real sex life, just that you're excited by new experiences — and, of course, gorgeous stars.

2. Ménage à trois. If you're picturing yourself with two men, you want to be adored and doted on — heck, maybe even fought over. Thinking about yourself and your guy with another woman ignites the very sex idea that other ladies find your guy attractive too. Read more

Top 3 Sex Mistakes Women Make

2012-02-21T06:00:00.000-05:00

It isn't only men who make sex mistakes. So do women. Here are the top three:

It’s 2011 and this is not your mother’s article. Nail appointments, little league, overtime, drive by dinners, and text messaged “I love You’s” make up our lives. We work hard and we want to play even harder, but society and that little voice in our heads reminds us we can’t behave “that way.”

I’m here to tell you not only can you behave “that” way you will create a healthier life by doing so. You are in a committed relationship and fun seems to elude you and your partner. All the sudden it’s become about homework, dance recitals, daycare, and bills.

When the last good night story is read and the kids are safely tucked in you certainly don’t want to go behind closed doors and make these mistakes with your man. Read ‘em and release ‘em! Read more

Have Great Morning Sex

2012-02-19T07:00:00.002-05:00

Mmm... Morning sex. Elise Neresesian gives some tips on how to make waking up more exciting.

For most of the working world, the blaring of the alarm clock isn't a happy sound. So why not turn that rude awakening into an erotic opportunity with a roll in the 400-thread-count hay? After all, scientists say that people who start their days by having sex are all-around healthier and happier than those who don't.

"Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. It makes you stronger and more beautiful too: Morning sex can strengthen your immune system for the day by enhancing your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection. And climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair. Want to max out the morning love? Follow these tips: Read more

How to 69

2012-02-17T05:00:00.002-05:00

Heaven gives you the low-down on turning your love life on its head (and its back) by 69ing with your partner.

4 Cunnilingus Tongue Techniques That Drive Women Wild

2012-02-14T06:00:00.001-05:00

When it comes "down" to it, cunnilingus is about using your tongue, says Svetlana Ivanova. She describes four tongue techniques that you can use to pleasure your lover.

The word cunnilingus mean “licking the vulva.” However, many cunnilingus tutorials don’t really get into the specifics of how to lick. Though using your mouth and fingers may be part of cunnilingus, it’s the tongue strokes that make cunnilingus special.

Before describing four tongue techniques that you can use to pleasure your lover, let me remind you of a very important point: do not head straight for her clitoris when you first go down on her. The clitoris can be painfully sensitive if a woman is not aroused enough, so make sure that you continue to turn her on so that she is fully receptive before stimulating her clitoris. Otherwise, it can have the opposite effect of what you want it to have, Read more

5 Sexy Secrets from a Burlesque Star

2012-02-11T06:00:00.001-05:00

If your sex life seems to be a little "blah," check out these five sexy secrets that will liven up any bedroom!

If your sex life seems more lifeless than lively -- you might want to look to the stage for inspiration. The burlesque stage that is.

Burlesque is a old-school erotic art form. Originally popular in the 1860's through the 1940's, these stripteases combined glamour and humor in a sizzling show format.

Now it's back in a big way. From perfomer Dita Von Teese's sold out shows to Cher and Christina Aguilera's bawdy film "Burlesque," the once forgotten sensuous stage shows have become "the ticket" for men and women alike looking for an original experience. There is something special about Burlesque. Read more

Full Female Arousal

2012-02-09T06:00:00.001-05:00

What does a woman look like when she is full aroused? What are the benefits of full female arousal? How long does it take? Sheri Winston and Jaiya answer your questions!

10 Practical Tips for Better Sex

2012-02-07T07:00:00.001-05:00

Clinical sex counselor Dr. Limor Michelman gives ten practical tips for better sex.

The most beautiful sex organ is... your brain! Follow these steps for a blissful full-body experience. Let the games begin!

1. Don't Rush!

Are you rushing? Our obsession with climaxing makes us lose out on the buildup. A sexual peak resulting from a slow arousal could turn out to be much more intense than a "quickie" -- relax and enjoy the ride! Read more

5 Things You Might Not Know about Female Orgasms

2012-02-04T07:00:00.001-05:00

Female orgasms are still sort of mysterious. Here are five things you might not know about female orgasms.

Orgasms are lots of fun; there's no disputing that. But there is oh-so-much more to the female orgasm than we knew. After the jump, five things that you might not have known about the complex, mysterious, multi-purpose, almighty Read more

The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples

2012-02-02T06:00:00.001-05:00

Couples who are overweight enjoy sex just as much as anyone else, but not all sex positions are satisfactory, says Jennifer Lawless. She suggests sex positions that might suit large couples. (Keep in mind that these positions are good for couples of any size.)

While couples who are overweight can enjoy sex just as much as anyone else, certain positions aren't very satisfying for large couples and may make for awkward moments. The positions that might best suit large couples are the woman on top, reverse woman-on-top, rear entry, T-square, X position, and the modified Yab-Yum.

1) Woman-on Top: The female superior positions are great for G-spot stimulation. In the woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back, with his legs straight, or knees slightly bent. If his stomach is very large, he can lift it up with both hands as the woman straddles him with her knees bent, facing him. She can then slide his erect penis into her vagina and start her pelvic thrusts either alone or in conjunction with his. If she stays upright and doesn't lean toward her partner too much, their abdomens won't get in the way. Read more

Female Masturbation: 10 Essentials for the Bedroom

2012-01-31T06:00:00.001-05:00

Women don't need equipment to masturbate, but the right equipment can make it better, Kaylen Jackson says. She lists ten essentials for the bedroom. Of course, most of these items can be used with a female partner as well.

Female masturbation is something every woman does – but do you have the right equipment? Don’t use your hands – here’s ten things no woman wants to be without.

Lube

Many girls don’t believe they need lube during masturbation, especially if they’re just using a clitoral vibrator. While this is true to an extent , lube can make things feel a lot better no matter what kind of sex toy you’re using, or even if you’re just using your hands. Dab a bit of lube on to your favorite clitoral vibrator and move it around a bit – you’ll be surprised at how good it feels when combined with the vibrations? The We-Vibe Touch is an excellent toy for this, because with a little lube on the tip, it can feel almost like a real tongue!

Our Recommendation:

A good, water based lube, like Astroglide, is going to be your best bet. Water based lube is compatible with all condoms and sex toys, so you don’t have to worry about degrading your toys with a lube that isn’t compatible, such as silicone lube with silicone sex toys. Water based lube is inexpensive, comes in lots of varieties including flavored, cooling, tingling and warming. Read more

Guide to Dirty Talk

2012-01-28T06:00:00.002-05:00

If you feel awkward about dirty talk in the bedroom, Heaven gives some tips if dirty talk doesn't come naturally to you.

Take Sex to a Deeper Level: Tips for Slow Sex

2012-01-19T07:00:00.002-05:00

Indulging in an intensely intimate sexual connection bonds you more tightly to your partner and boosts your body bliss. Here's how to make all that good stuff happen.

Animalistic sack sessions belong waaay up on every Cosmo girl's gotta-have-it list. But slow, soulful encounters shouldn't get second billing just because they don't leave cracks in the bedroom walls. "This kind of sex is deeper than connecting physically," says New York City sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. "It's about losing yourself in the moment and bonding emotionally as well." So do yourselves a favor and, some nights, put the following soulful-sex advice into action. Read more

Aphrodisiac Recipes: Eat Your Way to Better Sex

2012-01-17T07:00:00.001-05:00

Certain foods can make sex sizzle in all sorts of ways. Whip up these aphrodisiac recipes, and you could be cooking in the bedroom, too!

Studies show that certain vitamins and minerals can boost hormone levels, increase nerve sensitivity, and make sex sizzle in all sorts of subtle yet noticeable ways. The next time you're wondering why you're feeling so amorous over dinner, see if one of these foods may be to blame...and maybe you'll want to give it a permanent spot on your grocery list. Bon appétit! Read more

3 Breast Play Techniques That Turn Women On

2012-01-14T06:00:00.001-05:00

For many women, breast stimulation helps them become aroused and achieve orgasm. Svetlana Ivanova reveals three breast play techniques that turn women on.

It’s no secret that when it comes to foreplay techniques that men enjoy doing, playing with a woman’s breasts is extremely high on that list. The fact is that men love breasts, but when it comes to sex, breasts often get neglected. Many women long for more breast play as part of their sex lives, but if you don’t have a variety of different techniques to stimulate her breasts, you may discover that she would prefer if you don’t play with them as much as you would like. However, if you follow my 10 Tips for Better Breast Play and use the following three breast play techniques, she will be begging you to fondle and play with her breasts whenever and as much you want. Read more

5 Ways to Tell If You Squirted during Sex

2012-01-12T06:00:00.008-05:00

You may have heard of female ejaculation, aka "squirting," or you may not have. Either way, when it happens, many women are not sure what just happened. Kaylen Jackson gives women five ways to tell if you squirted during sex.

Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm. Read more

5 Sex Positions That Increase Emotional Intimacy

2012-01-10T07:00:00.001-05:00

Certain sex positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience and make an emotional connection. Jennifer Lawless says the following five sex positions help couples turn sexual intimacy into emotional intimacy.

One of the goals of Tantric sex is to increass intimacy between partners. Some sex positions encourage higher levels of emotional connection than others. These positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience, intensifying the intimacy of their sexual connection and imbuing it with emotional meaning. Missionary position is a favorite of many women because it is a face-to-face position, but other positions can enhance intimacy as well. Here are five sex positions that can increase the emotional connection for couples. Read more

Different Strokes for Different Folks

2012-01-07T08:00:00.007-05:00

Men and women have different sex organs, so you have to masturbate to know how you like to be stimulated and communicate that to your partner, say Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross.

Top 10 Cunnilingus Tips for Pleasuring a Woman

2012-01-05T06:00:00.038-05:00

Nobody knows what to do. You just close your eyes, you hope for the best. I really think they're happy if you just make an effort. - Jerry Seinfeld

We all want to give women orgasms when we have sex with them, and cunnilingus is the best and fastest way to do that. However, just making an effort is not enough. It also takes a little knowledge. Here are ten cunnilingus tips to give a woman the best, most intense orgasms she ever had:

1) Don't just dive in. Tease first. As a start, licking her from the vaginal opening up to her clitoris and following the outer edges of her vagina covering both sides, going up and down (and vice versa) can be a great way to relax her and get her in the mood.

2) Relax your tongue. Pointed tongues are too harsh, and in fact desensitize the clitoris. Use the whole face and do not be hesitant with the tongue. The chin rubbing on the vagina opening increases pleasure.

3) The licks should be smooth, steady, slow, and rhythmic. Don't attack the clitoris directly, don't use the teeth, and make varied movements, like tongue flicks and kisses. Work around the clitoral area in an up-and-down motion or in circles.

4) Be vocal. Compliment her on how her genitals look, or how great she tastes and smells. This will boost her sexual confidence. Some women enjoy growling, humming, and moaning during the cunnilingus, but do not make sucking noises!

5) Suck her into your mouth. Gentle suction is a nice variation on the licks and downward pressure of most cunnilingus. While you've got a nice piece of her sucked in your mouth, lick it while maintaining the suction.

6) When you find her "hot spot," stay there, and finish the job! If she's moaning louder, this does not mean you should change rhythm or technique. That means she is enjoying just what you've been doing!

7) Insert two fingers in her vagina while licking her clitoris. Curl those fingers up towards your tongue, capturing her clitoris and G-spot between your mouth and fingers. As your tongue licks up, pull down with your fingers and get a rhythm going.

8) The majority of a woman's nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first couple of inches inside. Hit them with your tongue when performing cunnilingus by inserting it into the vaginal opening, then licking gently in circular motions combined with flicks of the tongue.

9) Be patient. Only in porn, do women have orgasms in one or two minutes.

10 Just because she has had an orgasm does not mean that you are done. Don't be afraid to give her clitoris a gentle massage with your tongue and lips as if you're calming it down (just to get all worked up again).

Performing cunnilingus can be the key to unlocking a woman's orgasmic potential. When a woman is able to let go and fully immerse herself in the moment, she may even be able to have a series of orgasms that take her pleasure to new heights. Cunnilingus is a skill that, when perfected, will leave your woman in absolute heaven.

Oral sex done right can take a woman to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! However, cunnilingus is a delicate skill, requiring technique, practice, and knowledge to get it right. Most women don't orgasm from intercourse, so oral sex is your chance to finally give her the pleasure she's always wanted, the way women were meant to experience it. Click here!

How To Give A Woman Wild, Screaming Orgasms, Leaving Her with Uncontrollable Spasms!

2012-01-03T06:00:00.004-05:00

Lloyd Lester reveals the key to giving women wild, screaming orgasms, and guess what: it's actually simple - no acrobatic sex positions nor incredible stamina are needed

Orgasm tips are helpful if you want to give a girl the best climax of her life. Check out these orgasm tips and make your lover go NUTS!

How would you like it if your woman screams in bed every time you have sex? No, not screams of pain, but shrieks of pure ecstasy! Most guys would give anything to be able to pleasure any woman at will and give them the time of their lives. Well, then there are some guys whose partners just lay down there while they are thrusting away, with no emotions or just simply look bored.

Now, here’s the thing: if she looks bored during sex, it is usually not her fault. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make amazing sex (or boring, dreary sex). Either way, if she is not enjoying sex, you probably are not getting the most out of sex either. So how do you give your girl the kind of shrieking joys of screaming orgasms that will put other men to shame? Read more

Experience More Pleasure in the New Year

2011-12-29T08:00:00.002-05:00

Here are some suggestions to make the new year a more pleasurable experience.

As December comes to an end and everyone begins to come down from their holiday-high, that annual question always creeps up at the end of the month: What am I going to do for my New Years resolution?

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So to get you started off on the right foot this year, we’ve put together a handful of options to incorporate into your routine that will help you experience more pleasure in 2012.

- Each month, aim to try a new sex position. Whether it be one that you’ve been dying to try, or revisiting a position you’ve loved in the past—aim to break the cycle if you’ve found yourself falling into a “sex routine”. Read more

Favorite Positions for Orgasm

2011-12-22T11:00:00.001-05:00

Some women orgasm during intercourse, and some women don't, but those that do often have a favorite position for getting there. Here the women of Cherry TV talk about their favorite positions and movements that are most helpful for orgasm during sex.

Massage Her G-Spot during Oral Sex and Make Her EXPLODE!

2011-12-20T07:00:00.001-05:00

Gabrielle Moore says that massaging a woman's G-spot during oral sex will make her explode, but where is the G-spot and how do you massage it?

The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary. Read more

Insertion during Cunnilingus

2011-12-17T13:00:00.003-05:00

Do women like a finger or a dildo inserted during cunnilingus? The Cherry TV panel reveals that women like insertion, yet at different times during arousal. They do agree, though, that insertion during oral can be finger-licking good!

How to Choose the Perfect Sex Toy

2011-12-15T06:00:00.002-05:00

Among the wonders of modern life, is the array of sex toys available today. Sometimes, too many choices can lead to confusion, though. Aunt Becky discusses how to choose the perfect sex toy.

Everywhere you go, there's new online retailers that offer about a million different styles, products, and sizes of sex toys.

So how do you know which one is right for you? Let me help you out.

Let me start my handy-dandy primer with this: quality matters. Take it from me, who once bought the absolute cheapest vibrator possible only to have it nearly explode while I was using it. Not, as you might guess, something I want to happen to you. Or anyone. Ever. Buying quality doesn't mean you have to spend a zillion dollars, just try and go with the middle of the road toy, price-wise. And what's even better is that most online retailers have a space for customer reviews, so you can easily tell what you're getting is a favorite ... or not.

That said, let's find you a sex toy! Read more

How to Give an Erotic Spanking

2011-12-13T10:00:00.002-05:00

Spanking is a highly erotic sexual act, enjoyed by both sexes. If you and your partner are turned-on by the idea and want to know more about it, Svetlana Ivanova tells how to give an erotic spanking.

Erotic spanking is the act of spanking another person for the sexual arousal or gratification of either or both partners. Spanking can be sexy, and a majority of women have fantasies about being spanked. Most men, too, find spanking a woman to be a strong sexual turn-on.

For a woman, the turn-on is not so much in the sensation of pain as it is in the feeling of helpless submission and vulnerability of being bent over her partner’s lap, the attention being paid to her behind (a primary erogenous zone), the feeling of a man’s hand warming her buttocks, and the anticipation of sexual pleasures to come. For a man, the arousing aspect of spanking is the feeling of control and power over his helpless lover, and the excitement of playing with her beautiful bottom, turning it pink and putting her in the mood for some hot, passionate sex.

Both the spanker and the spankee need to want the experience. Talking about whether spanking should be a part of sex play usually works best when it happens before your sex session. That’s not to say that there’s no room for spontaneity, but rather, you’re more likely to be able to ask for what you want and hear your partner’s requests when you’re not turned on. The clearer you are about what you want or what you might like to explore, the more likely it is that you’ll get it. Read more

The First Step in Learning about Your Clitoris

2011-12-10T06:00:00.002-05:00

Many women are astonishingly ignorant about their own genitals, considering they've had them their whole lives. Vulva self-examination is the first step in reclaiming your sex organs. Occupy your vulva!

Sex Toys: How to Add Them to Partner Sex

2011-12-08T07:00:00.027-05:00

Many people think of sex toys as strictly for masturbation, but they don't have to be. If you use sex toys with your partner, they can do double duty and help turn the sex you're already having into something even better. However, many couples never add this extra boost to their sex life for various reasons. They may be afraid of insulting their partner, or worry that adding a sex toy will destroy the intimacy of sex in their relationship. They may be shy about revealing how they masturbate or even that they do. None of these concerns should keep you from adding sex toys to partner sex, however, as long as you do it the right way.

So, how do you introduce sex toys to the bedroom? The most important thing is to reassure your partner that your sex toys aren't going to replace them! They're simply there to enhance the sexual experience for both of you. After all, sex is supposed to make you feel good, so using sex toys is just a way to make it feel even better. Make sure your partner knows that no matter what toys you use, he or she is the most important factor in your sexual pleasure.

When you're shopping for your toys, be sure you involve your partner. You want him or her to feel as much a part of the experience as possible. If one or both of you are too shy to go to a store in person, online sellers like Amazon are great places to browse for sex toys together. Amazon carries everything you could possibly need, from dildos to vibrators to butt plugs to personal lubricants.

Once you've have your new sex toys, the fun part starts: putting them to use. Vibrators are among the most common and easiest toys to integrate into your sexual routine. If you'd like him to be a little harder, and you'd like a little extra stimulation, try a vibrating cock ring. Even regular vibrators can be used. Just touch it to her clitoris or against the base of his penis during foreplay or sexual intercourse and experience a whole new dimension of sex!

Sex toys are also a great way to show your partner exactly what you like sexually. You know that you want those mind-blowing orgasms you have alone whenever you have sex, so if your partner isn't quite getting you there, it's time to show him or her how it's done. During foreplay, just grab a toy and demonstrate exactly what gets you off. Your partner will appreciate the tutorial, especially when he or she takes over to give you an earth-shattering orgasm!

Adding sex toys to partner sex will add fun and excitement to your relationship. That's sure to increase the intimacy between you and your partner. With sex, there's always something new to try, so don't be shy about introducing sex toys to the bedroom!

4 Ways to Make Squirting Even HOTTER!

2011-12-06T06:00:00.012-05:00

If you haven't experienced female ejaculation or squirting yet, my post Improve Female Ejaculation with Kegel Exercises can help you get there. If you have, Kaylen Jackson gives four ways to make it even hotter.

Squirting can be a lot of fun – letting go like that can mean the difference between having an “okay” orgasm and having a mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasm! If squirting is something you’ve just learned to do, check out how you can make it even BETTER!

Don’t Worry About The Sheets

Have a change of sheets on hand, and if you have to, put one of those plastic bed protectors under your sheet (or just a bunch of towels). Sheets can be thrown in the wash and if you know you’re not going to ruin your mattress by squirting, you can really let go! (Yes, there are tons of women who have been unable to let go and ejaculate, simply because they were afraid of making a mess or ruining the bed).

Of course, you can still role play the incredible “I’m-such-a-bad-girl-and-I-made-such-a-big-mess” fantasy, even though you know you can clean up by just throwing the sheets in the washing machine. Read more

Keeping Your Sex Life Hot

2011-12-03T09:00:00.002-05:00

Jaiya, author of Red Hot Touch, talks about ways that you can keep your sex life hot. Did you know that mystery + obstacle = hot sex.

Analingus: Oral Anal Play

2011-12-01T06:00:00.060-05:00

Analingus or rimming is the act of performing oral sex of the anal area. Analingus is not a common sexual practice even today, but times are changing. If you are curious and open to new adventures, analingus can bring you a multitude of wonderful sensations and is also an excellent warm-up for anal sex. The anus is lined with many sensitive nerve endings, so when these are stimulated by the touch of a warm, wet tongue, the result can be quite pleasurable. The key to enjoying these new sensations is to get over any inhibitions and embrace analingus as an incredibly sensual and intimate act between lovers.

How to Perform Analingus

Cleanliness is even more of a issue with analingus than with genital oral sex. Taking a bath or shower together is a relaxing form of foreplay and will allow your partner to get squeaky clean. You and your partner should soap your butt and anus, inserting a finger into the rectum, and rinse thoroughly with warm water. An enema usually isn't necessary if you wash well.

Like other forms of oral sex, take your time, relax, and gradually arouse your partner. You could start with genital oral sex, and then as your partner's body becomes more aroused, it can be a natural progression to lick further south. If you are performing cunnilingus, be sure not to go back up to the vagina after licking the anus in order to prevent any bacterial infection.

The greatest pleasure of analingus comes from tender kisses, loving licks and variations of tongue movements circling in and around the anus, igniting all those sensitive nerve endings. You can use both hands to spread the anus wide and then point your tongue and insert it in and out.

Analingus Positions

Sideways 69 is a good position to start out with. Regular 69 can be a bit tricky for you to get in to a comfortable and accessible position that you can both enjoy, but if you both turn side on, you can massage, lick, and suck to your mutual delight. When you are ready and feel completely comfortable with exposure, try the following positions:

Doggy

Doggy is where the receiver assumes the doggy position kneeling down, and the giver kneels behind and gently spreads each butt check to expose the anus.

Bent Over

This position is self-explanatory. However, you can modify it by the receiver bending over the edge of a bed or chair to maximize comfort for both parties.

Legs Up

In this position, the receiver lies on their back with their legs open and bent, knees drawn up to their chest. The giver lies on their stomach in front. This position can be made more comfortable with the receiver lying on the edge of the bed, and the giver keeling in front.

Analingus is an intimate act that requires a high level of comfort with your sexual partner. If you both want it, analingus can be a wonderful experience for a couple. The total acceptance of each other's bodies with no part being off limits can strengthen both the sexual and emotional connection with your lover.

Anal play is one of the most intense, sexually-charged experience you can give your lover. If regular sex just doesn't cut it anymore, discover a completely new way to stimulate and satisfy her wildest desires for hot sex! Click Here!

Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation

2011-11-29T07:00:00.001-05:00

Many woman have trouble reaching orgasm with sexual intercourse. One of the reasons is that many sex positions are do provide enough clitoral stimulation. Svetlana Ivanova says that the Pelvic Slide is one position that does.

Many women have a difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse (if they are able to orgasm at all) because they don’t get sufficient clitoral stimulation. One thing that has helped a lot of women learn to be orgasmic during intercourse is experimenting with sex positions. Many women agree there’s no better sexual position for reaching climax than woman-on-top. The Pelvic Slide is a variation of the woman-on-top position that adds a sexual movement technique that facilitates clitoral orgasm. Read more

How to Help a Woman Have an Orgasm

2011-11-26T06:00:00.001-05:00

A viewer writes to Dan and Jennifer: "My girlfriend can't seem to have an orgasm. Every time she starts to feel that 'sensation,' it just fades away. What can I do to help her have a full blown orgasm?"

Healing Your Woman with Tantric Yoni Massage

2011-11-22T06:00:00.001-05:00

What is Tantric yoni massage? Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina and a Tantric yoni massage is a method in which the yoni is pleasured and massaged from a perspective of love and respect, according to Jennifer Lawless.

Yoni (YO-NEE) is the Sanskrit word for the vagina. In Tantra, the vagina is a sacred part of the female body, which must be treated with care and respect. The Yoni massage is a sensuous form of intimacy that builds trust between partners and brings them closer together emotionally and spiritually.

Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose is not to bring the woman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax both the giver and the receiver and to bring emotions to the surface. The experiences and feelings that a woman may have during the Yoni massage can be very different, ranging from anger, lust, sadness, or even indifference. Everything is possible and everything is allowed. The Yoni massage is not about focusing on a special kind of feeling or fulfilling a particular expectation. The idea is simply to observe and to experience. As you learn to master the Yoni massage, your sex life will be greatly enriched, and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality. Read more

Best Sex Toys

2011-11-19T06:00:00.002-05:00

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross show off their favorite sex toys in this video.

4 Bedroom-Friendly Foods (and 4 You Should Avoid)

2011-11-17T06:00:00.001-05:00

Jessica Wakeman gives the definitive guide to which foods are bedroom-friendly and which ones you should keep in the kitchen.

As Sarah Silverman once said, “A couple of nights ago I was licking jelly off my boyfriend’s penis. And I thought, ‘Oh my God, I’m turning into my mother!”

Yes, we have all raided the fridge during a romp in the sack with our boo — and if we didn’t know any better, Tide detergent made us their bitch afterwards. Sometimes a girl just wants to spice things up in the bedroom with a tasty treat … but we’re pretty sure actual spices are an emergency-trip-to-the-gyno bad idea. Here’s your definitive guide to bedroom-friendly foods and the ones you should keep in the kitchen! Read more

5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus

2011-11-15T06:00:00.001-05:00

More women reach orgasm through cunnilingus than with intercourse, says Svetlana Ivanova, so performing cunnlingus well can endear you to a woman like nothing else can.

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina and direct stimulation of the clitoris. A recent study showed that twice as many women orgasm from oral sex as from intercourse. Cunnilingus performed well will endear you to her like nothing else can. Follow these five steps for performing perfect cunnilingus on your woman.

1) Hands first. Spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts, and stomach. Stroke her lightly with your fingertips. Run your finger up and down between her labia, but don’t insert a finger. Instead, slowly tantalize her opening just a bit. Gently squeeze and pull on her lips. Use your hands to grab and caress her thighs, her tummy, and her pelvic arch. Tease her with your hands. Stimulate her as much as possible without directly touching her clitoris. Read more

Sexual Trust and Orgasm

2011-11-12T07:00:00.002-05:00

Jaiya discusses how to improve orgasmic response by building sexual trust.

Anal Sex: Dos and Don'ts

2011-11-10T07:00:00.002-05:00

If you're curious about experimenting with anal sex, Sarah Gibson's dos and don'ts should help you and your partner on your way. For more on this topic, check out my post How to Enjoy Anal Sex.

Anal sex; people are really doing it. Believe it or not, it is a regular feature in some kiwi bedrooms, and it’s certainly not the sexual taboo that it once was. If you’re curious about experimenting with ‘the backdoor’ then these dos and don’ts should help you and your partner on your way.

Do use lube, lube and more lube
When it comes to anal sex there is no such thing as too much lube. Unlike the vagina the anus is not self-lubricating, so plenty of silicone or water-based lubricant is essential. It helps the penis to glide into the anal passage, creating a safer and more comfortable experience for you both. There are specifically designed anal lubes available on the market; but any personal lubricant will do. Silicone lubricants are particularly good for anal sex because they don’t dry out and last much longer than the water-based equivalent. Read more

The Ultimate Sex Position?

2011-11-08T07:00:00.001-05:00

Jennifer Lawless says the Butterfly may be the ultimate sex position.

The "butterfly" may be the ultimate sexual position. The butterfly sex position is easy for both the man and the woman to do, and it's very pleasurable for both partners. Finally, because it's a face-to-face position, the butterfly provides intimacy between lovers. This position is called the butterfly because when the woman's legs are wide apart and the man is thrusting, her legs simulate the movements of the wings of a butterfly.

To perform the butterfly position, find a place - the edge of a bed (or couch, counter, desk, or just about anything with the room) -where you pelvis is about one foot lower than his. You may want to place a pillow under your hips. Lie back while your man stands in front of you. (He may be able to kneel if the bed is very low.) Then lift your legs and rest your feet at his mid-section or on his shoulders. Read more

Hands Free Orgasm: Can Women Masturbate without Touching Themselves?

2011-11-05T09:00:00.001-04:00

An orgasm usually happens when a woman stimulates her clitoris or G-spot, or her partner does. It’s assumed that a woman must be genitally stimulated to reach orgasm, but everyone says that a woman’s brain is an instrumental part in getting to climax, so can a woman reach orgasm without ever touching herself at all?

Fingering: Pleasuring a Woman with Your Hand

2011-11-03T06:00:00.002-04:00

Fingering is a term meaning the manual manipulation of the clitoris, vulva, vagina, or anus for the purpose of sexual arousal and stimulation. Fingering can be the entire sexual encounter, or it may be part of foreplay. To "finger yourself" is to masturbate with your hand. Fingering can be done outside the vagina only, inside the vagina, or around and inside the anus.

Outside the vagina
Massaging the vulva, and in particular the clitoris, is the most common way for a woman to masturbate to orgasm. The clitoris is usually massaged through the skin of the clitoral hood, using up-and-down, side-to-side, or circular motions.The labia and the rest of the genitals are also stimulated by massage and fingering. Fingering a woman the same way she does when she masturbates is probably the most sure-fire method for giving a woman an orgasm. Ask her how she likes it, or let her use her hand to guide you.

Inside the vagina
Fingering inside the vagina is often used to stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is located about two inches up on the upper wall of the vagina, forwards toward the belly button. It can be recognized by its ridges and slightly rougher texture compared to the more cushion-like vaginal walls around it. However, you will probably not be able to feel the G-spot unless the woman is already sexually aroused.

Some women say the "come hither" technique, which uses the middle finger and sometimes the index finger to make a hand gesture like "come here" with the palm facing upwards against her pubic bone, is effective for stimulating the G-spot. In any case, significant pressure on the G-spot is usually needed to bring a woman to a G-spot orgasm. Shoving the fingers in and out of the vagina to simulate intercourse is usually not an effective way to bring a woman to orgasm. If you choose to do that, be sure the fingers are well-lubricated.

Anal fingering
Fingering the anus can be pleasurable because of the large number of nerve endings in the anal area and because of the stimulation gained from stretching the anal sphincter muscles when inserting one or more fingers. Anal fingering can also stimulate the perineal sponge, which sits between the vagina and rectum. Anal fingering can be used as an act in itself, or as preparation for further anal sex. Anal fingering can arouse a woman, allowing her to relax her anus and prepare her for the insertion of a penis or a sex toy.

Unless only the outer ring of the anus is being massaged, a sexual lubricant is necessary to make insertion of the fingers painless and pleasurable. Also, hands should be washed with soap and warm water before practicing any other sexual activity to avoid spreading bacteria or germs.

Pleasuring a woman with your hand can yield amazing results. Of course, it's up to you to figure out exactly what your particular woman prefers when it comes to speed, tempo, and amount of fingers. You should encourage her to be vocal about what she likes.

Just imagine being so sexually skilled that you can literally have any woman screaming with pleasure and sexually exhausted from a night of orgasm after orgasm. To discover how to give any woman three types of mind-blowing orgasms as if it were second nature, click here.

Use the Friction Zone to Bring a Woman to Orgasm during Intercourse

2011-11-01T06:00:00.001-04:00

Many women are unable to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse, but Svetlana Ivanova says the Friction Zone Technqiue can often give women orgasms during intercourse who have never had them.

Studies reveal that only about 28% of women reach orgasm from sexual intercourse alone. There are two main reasons for that statistic. First of all, it takes most women far longer than men to become fully aroused – as long as a half-hour in many cases. Women take an average of twenty minutes to reach orgasm, and for many women, it can take up to a half-hour or more of sustained stimulation to move into orgasmic range.

Another reason that only 28% of women experience orgasm regularly during vaginal intercourse is because they don’t get enough direct clitoral stimulation during intercourse to have an orgasm. The Friction Zone Technique can often give women orgasms during intercourse who have never had them before. This thrusting technique stimulates the clitoris with the friction and pressure from the upper pubic region (the area right above the pubic bone), which we’ll call the Friction Zone. To perform the Friction Zone Technique, follow the steps below: Read more

Exercise for Genital Fitness

2011-10-29T06:00:00.001-04:00

From Kegels to penis curls, Dodson and Ross cover all things related to your PC muscle and sexual health. You don't need the device shown in the video to get started. Women can begin with this vaginal strengthening exercises program, and men can start with this PC muscle workout. Start squeezing.

5 (More) Sex Moves Women Want in Bed, but Can Be Too Afraid to Ask for

2011-10-27T06:00:00.003-04:00

Jessica Wakeman reveals five more sex moves women want in bed, but can be too afraid to ask for.

I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. The idea that some women can’t ask for what they want, or don’t know what they want in the first place, is foreign to me.

However, I’m well-aware that I may not be in the majority here. Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky — and that’s a crying shame. Sexual relationships (any relationships, actually) thrive when you know what you want and can communicate it effectively to your partner clearly. Therefore, I would love to help you out, boys and girls, more so than I already did with my piece “5 Moves Women Love In Bed, But Can Be Too Afraid to Ask For.” (And I apologize for how heteronormative this advice is, but my only sexual partners have been dudes!)

Men, don’t pressure anything here, of course — but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts. Read more

How to Give a Tantric Clitoral Massage

2011-10-25T06:00:00.001-04:00

Stimulating the clitoris may feel fantastic at first, but if you don’t vary your technique the result can lead to numbness or pain, neither of which are conducive to giving a woman sexual pleasure. If you really want to drive her wild with ecstasy, you should try giving her a Tantric clitoral massage.

All women are capable of having an orgasm from clitoral stimulation. In fact, the sole function of the clitoris is to give a woman pleasure and bring her to orgasm. The purpose of clitoral massage is to make her clitoris the center of attention. It can be done by itself, or as part of a Yoni massage, a G-spot massage, or an erotic massage. Read more

Analingus and Anal Massage

2011-10-22T06:00:00.002-04:00

Jaiya discusses about analingus and anal play.

4 Orgasmic Sex Positions

2011-10-20T06:00:00.074-04:00

Sex surveys show that the majority of women do not climax from sexual intercourse. One reason for this, of course, is that their sex partners do not last long enough for them to achieve orgasm. Another is that some sex positions do not provide enough clitoral and/or G-spot stimulation for the woman to achieve orgasm no matter how long her partner lasts. The following four positions provide the stimulation missing in some sex positions.

1) Modified Missionary Position. The modified missionary position allows the man to provide a woman deep penetration, with his shaft rubbing against her clitoris for more pleasure. In this position, she will put one leg over the man's shoulder and he will thrust from a side angle.

2) Woman-on-Top Position. This sex position can give a woman most mind-blowing orgasm that she ever experienced before. In this position, she can find the best spot to stimulate her clitoris and G-spot, as well controlling the depth and speed of penetration.

3) Modified Doggy Position. In this position, the woman will lie on her stomach, completely flat. Then the man will sit directly above her pelvis and penetrate her from the rear. He should start off slowly while gradually increase the speed and power of his thrusts as her excitement grows. This is another great position for hitting the G-spot.

4) Butterfly Position. This is one position that can guarantee to hit the G-spot and bring her to orgasm heaven. In this position, the woman lies down on her back at the edge of the bed, with her feet on the floor. Then the man stands between her legs and penetrates her.

Though these four positions provide maximum clitoral and/or G-spot stimulation for most women, they won't work unless the man lasts long enough for the woman to achieve orgasm, however. To learn a proven, permanent method that allows you to last 10-30 minutes longer in bed TONIGHT, click here!

10 Steps to Great First-Time Cunnilingus

2011-10-18T08:00:00.001-04:00

If you're a cunnilingus novice, Svetlana Ivanova gives ten steps to making your first time a great time, and they're good tips even if you're not a beginner.

Cunnilingus is the art of making love to a vulva and vagina with your mouth and tongue. If your new lover is a cunnilingus virgin, or she has just never received cunnilingus from you, then her first time may be a little scary. For some women, negative thoughts about their genitals interfere with their ability to enjoy cunnilingus. A woman may worry about everything from the appearance of her vulva to issues like genital odor and genital taste.

You can help put your lover at ease by being complimentary and positive about her genitals. There is little more exciting to a woman than to know that her man finds her delicious, meaning that you enjoy the taste, smell, and feeling of her vaginal juices. At the same time, there is little less exciting to a woman than to think that you don’t like the taste and smell of her most intimate region. Once she’s relaxed an comfortable with you, following these ten steps should take her to new heights of pleasure and ecstasy! Read more

3 Oral Sex Tips That Will Drive Her Wild!

2011-10-15T06:00:00.004-04:00

Dan and Jennifer give three oral sex tips that will drive a woman wild.

10 Steps to an Erotic Massage

2011-10-13T06:00:00.021-04:00

If you want to please a woman, giving her a erotic massage can ease her way into sex. Erotic massage massage is the use of massage techniques to achieve or enhance sexual arousal.You can start with a general massage before shifting the focus to your partner's erogenous zones. The goal is to bring your partner to a high level of arousal and keep her there for a while. Follow these ten steps to give a woman an erotic massage she will appreciate:

(1) Get her into a comfortable position and situation.

The best place to give a massage is when her lying nude on a warm, padded surface. A romantic mood can be fostered with dim lights and soothing instrumental music. Turn off cell phones to avoid any distraction. Before starting the massage, make sure you are relaxed, too.

(2) Have lubricants prepared.

Make sure you have some massage oil. This will allow your hands to glide smoothly across her skin. If your massage include the genitals, avoid using oil-based lubricants. They are not so easy to wash away, which can promote bacterial growth resulting in yeast infection. Make sure the water-based lubricant does not contain any Nonoxynol-9 because this can cause irritation. Never apply the oil or lotion directly onto her body. Apply it first to your hands and then rub it onto her body.

(3) Maintain communication

During both the general and the erotic massage, it is important for her to feel comfortable enough to make any requests and comments. It is a good idea to look into your partner's eyes while your hands are on her genitals sp that you can adjust your strokes based on her responses. Also, letting your receiving partner knows you enjoy giving her pleasure can be a powerful aphrodisiac for her.

(4) Watch your body posture and strokes

Keep your hands in contact with your partner as much as possible. Take your time, being rhythmic, yet sensitive. Progress from long, gliding strokes to deep ones. When giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanic. Use your body weight rather than your arm strength for deep strokes and during gliding strokes, keep your knees slightly bent.

(5) Back, sides, and buttocks

Continue with this circular motion on each side of the spine extending to the sides and lower back. Besides this, you rub in a diagonal motion on each side of the spine. You can also straighten both hands one on each side of the spine, you lean forward using your body weight not using the force of your hands to press down on the back. You do this from the middle to the lower part of the back. Using the inside of your forearm, you slowly rub one buttocks cheek at a time in a large circular motion. After that you make a fist and roll your knuckles, one by one, over the triangular bone at her lower back which is helpful for relieving stress.

(6) Legs and feet

Grab her ankle and massage with your thumbs and fingers all the way up her leg. However, do not use too much pressure behind the knees to avoid hurting the sensitive veins there. For the feet, you use your thumbs to massage the soles in circular motion. Then massage each toe by lightly squeezing it between your thumb and index finger and gently pulling on each one.

(7) Neck and shoulders

Assuming your partner is now lying face down, the upper part of her body is the right place to start with because a lot of tension is built up there. Use your fingertips to slowly and gently knead (not pinch) on the shoulders. For the neck, place one hand on each side of the neck, and then move your hands in slow and gentle circles.

(8) Head and face

To massage the head, your partner should be lying on her back facing you. You do not need any massage oil, so use a towel to wipe the oil off your hands. Then use the tips of your first two or three fingers to gently rub in a circular motion over her temples. With your thumb and first finger, rub her ear lobes and ears and then lightly run your fingers across her entire face.

9) Breasts

A woman's breasts may be very sensitive, so do not handle them roughly. A light, flowing stroke is best, especially to start with. Slow massage strokes usually feel better than fast massage ones. Generally, begin with circular stokes, and then you can try figure eight strokes.

(10) Vulva and clitoris

The vulva is the outer area of a woman's vagina. It is extremely sensitive to soft touches. You can begin arousing her by pressing your hand against her vulva and then massaging her gently. Your movements should be circular or going back and forth. You can hold the lips of her vulva and gently rub them against one another. You can even try pinching them very gently. Don't squeeze her vulva with your hand. This is a common mistake people make.

You can try stimulating the clitoris together with the vulva massage also. Many people mistakenly believe that, since the clitoris is an extremely erogenous zone, all the focus of lovemaking should be there. However, the surrounding areas are extremely sensitive also. They can excite her to the point where she will welcome a touch on her clitoris.

The art of massage, and particularly erotic massage, has taken a backseat when it comes to sex. Be an original lover and give her a night that she will want to repeat. Remember that if you treat her to this, chances are that she'll repay you with a little favor that you'll greatly appreciate.

The 4 Best Positions for Reaching a Tantric G-Spot Orgasm

2011-10-11T07:00:00.002-04:00

G-spot stimulation requires hard or constant pressure, but fingering and sex toys are not the only ways to do that. Several sex positions can apply enough pressure to lead to a G-spot orgasm, says Jennifer Lawless.

A Tantric orgasm is a full body energy experience. G-spot stimulation is one way to access Tantric orgasms. The G-spot (Grafenberg spot) is a small, lima bean-shaped area on the upper side of the vaginal wall (tummy side), approximately 2-3 inches in. This spot feels different in texture than the rest of the vagina. It is spongy and coarser in texture than the rest of the vagina, which is normally how it is found. When the G-spot is stimulated, usually through hard pushing or constant rubbing, it causes intense orgasmic feelings that most women say exceeds a normal orgasmic response.

To stimulate the G-spot, pressure has to be applied on the upper wall of the vagina, AND the woman has to be extremely aroused. Blood rushes to the G-spot just as it does to the clitoris during sexual excitement. Therefore, any sexual position which maximizes pressure to this area increases the chance for a G-spot orgasm. The following 4 positions greatly increase the likelihood that a woman will experience a G-spot orgasm. Read more

Nipple Play Tutorial

2011-10-08T06:00:00.001-04:00

This video gives some basic tips on nipple play with the best one being, don't forget about them!

10 Tips for Better Breast Play

2011-10-04T11:00:00.001-04:00

Many women long for more breast play as part of their sex lives. When a girl first goes through puberty, her breasts get a lot of visual attention, and when they start to kiss and make out they get touching type of attention. Once a young woman begins having intercourse, though, it's as if the vagina somehow upstages the breasts. You can give your female partner the breast/nipple stimulation she desires with these ten tips for better breast play from Svetlana Ivanova.

For many men and women, the breasts have a special sexual significance, so getting to know how your partner likes her breasts to be touched is an important element in making love to her. Just as they come in a variety of sizes, our breasts also have a variety of sensations. It is an individual matter, and what one woman may enjoy, another may not. With that in mind, here are ten tips for better breast play. Read more

How to Give a Tantric Breast Massage

2011-09-28T06:00:00.001-04:00

Most women love having their breasts massaged, rubbed, and loved. The breasts provide the perfect playground for foreplay and supply a hugely pleasurable form of relaxation and preparation for both partners. Jennifer Lawless explains how to give a Tantric breast massage.

A Tantric breast massage is a ritual that allows a woman to receive sensual energy and unconditional love from her partner. The breast massage is a special type of Tantric massage that focuses on the woman’s breasts. Not only does massaging the breasts make them firmer, it also makes them healthier and aids in maintaining the balance of hormones in a woman's body. Breast massage is also a great way for a man to give pleasure, healing, and intimacy to his partner. The breasts are the seat of a woman’s sexuality and need to be loved and honored before any other part of her body will open up to you. Read more

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

2011-09-26T06:00:00.001-04:00

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross say that sny woman can have multiple orgasms.

Tease Her to Please Her

2011-09-24T06:00:00.017-04:00

Women love it when a man is able to maintain sexual control and heighten her sexual experience to depths unknown to her before. If your goal is to drive your woman mad with passion, Svetlana Ivanova says the following technique will create almost unbearable sexual desire and tension.

Studies reveal that only about 28% of women reach orgasm during from sexual intercourse alone. Women take an average of twenty minutes to reach orgasm, and for many women, it can take up to a half-hour or more of sustained stimulation to move into orgasmic range. Seducing and being seduced, teasing and being teased, create sexual excitement in women. The following sexual technique will both tease her and please her. It works by SLOWLY increasing physical stimulation, thereby creating almost unbearable sexual desire and tension. Read more

Keeping Your Sex Life Hot

2011-09-22T06:00:00.001-04:00

New World Sex Educator Jaiya talks about ways that you can keep your sex life hot.

6 Penetrating Positions for a Small Penis

2011-09-17T06:00:00.002-04:00

If your lover's penis doesn't "fill you up," you don't have to settle for being dissatisfied. Jennifer Lawless describes six sex positions that ensure that even a smaller penis can give you the feeling of fullness you enjoy.

Most studies indicate that the average erect penis length is 5.5 to 6.5 inches, and the average circumference is 4.5 to 5 inches. A penis of 5 inches or less is considered small. The Kama Sutra classifies men by the size of their penises, calling a man with a small penis a "hare man." The other two categories are "bull man" and horse man." However, the following 6 variations of common sex positions will ensure that even a "hare man" gets in as deep as possible during sexual intercourse and satisfies the woman he's with. Read more

Anal Sex: How to Make Her REALLY Want It

2011-09-15T06:00:00.001-04:00

Dan and Jennifer give some great tips for approaching your wife or girlfriend with the forbidden topic of anal sex.

Spooning: The Best Position for Comfort and Intimacy?

2011-09-10T06:00:00.002-04:00

Svetlana Ivanova says the spooning sex position may be the best position for comfort and intimacy.

The spooning (side-by-side) sex positions can be great for increased intimacy for both partners. It gets its name because your bodies come together in a way that mimics the way spoons fit together in a drawer..It is possibly the most romantic sex position since it allows for couples to have intercourse while cuddling, or “spooning.” With this type of sex position, both partners hands are free to caress the other partner (partly dependent on if partners are facing each other or not) or stimulate their or their partners genital area. Read more

The spooning sex position is one of those described in my post 6 Sex Positions to Try for Fun and Pleasure.

How to Give a Breast Massage

2011-09-08T07:00:00.001-04:00

Zex educator Jaiya tells how to give a woman sexual pleasure with breast massage.

5 Female Masturbation Techniques

2011-09-06T06:00:00.004-04:00

Do you ever wish you could just relax and get rid of some stress? Maybe you had a bad day at the office or a tough day with the kids. Although women relieve their sexual frustrations by masturbating, just as men do, even when women have sexual partners, they sometimes masturbate to release tension and feel more relaxed. However, some women struggle to achieve orgasm with masturbation or wish their orgasms were more intense and satisfying. If you're one of those women or are just bored with your usual method, here are five masturbation techniques to experiment with:

1) Humping masturbation. This is the way many girls learn to masturbate. Humping is rubbing yourself against something else, such as a pillow, a stuffed animal, or the arm of the chair or sofa. Just rub back and forth against the object until you reach orgasm.

2) Thigh squeezing masturbation. Simply squeeze your thighs together and relax. If you are alone, lie on your back and cross and uncross your legs. This provides an exquisite teasing sensation that slowly brings you to orgasm.

3) Water masturbation techniques. Shower masturbation is not a myth. A detachable shower head can be quite stimulating for most women. Try to obtain the one with the handy control that can switch from steady stream to a pulsating jet spray. Another technique is to position yourself under the running faucet with your legs spread wide.

4) Clitoral stimulation using your fingers. Finger masturbation techniques include finger tapping or patting, finger rolling, finger rubbing, and, of course, penetration with one or two fingers. Although every woman has her own personal preferences, it is usually better to start with tapping masturbation, then rolling, then rubbing, and finally penetration. Lubricants can be a big help with finger masturbation.

5) Sex toy masturbation. Sex toys are amazing with their vibrating, rotating, and multi-speed functions. Although vibrators are primarily used for clitoral stimulation, they can also be used for G-spot and anal stimulation as well. There are many nerve endings around the anus that can be stimulated with the use of a handheld massager. There are many types of vibrators on the market today; such as finger vibrators, rabbit vibrators, bullets, and dildos, that can enhance the masturbation experience.

As with anything, some techniques work for some women and don’t work for others. There is no right or wrong way to masturbate, nor a limit to many times you should do it a week. Sometimes, masturbation may involve nothing more than placing your hands against your vulva when you go to sleep at night, and there is nothing wrong with a woman giving herself pleasure on a daily basis if she wants to. As long as you are comfortable with the pleasure that masturbation provides you and the frequency that you do it, that is all that counts.

Darn Good Orgasms: A Woman’s Guide To Self-Pleasure teaches you how to have your best orgasms, starting today. Now you can discover the 4-part, step-by-step technique and start having incredible orgasms. Once you know the technique, you can use it over and over and your orgasms will just keep getting better. To find out more, click here!

Sexual Healing: The Female Deer Exercise

2011-09-03T06:00:00.000-04:00

The Female Deer Exercise is a Taoist Chi Kung exercise that can improve sexual pleasure, says Jennifer Lawless.

The Female Deer Exercise is the best known women's exercise from Taoist Chi Kung. It cultivates sexual energy, improves physical vitality and mental alertness, improves sexual enjoyment, and reduces or eliminates many common women's ailments. It is simple to perform, takes only a few minutes, and is very pleasurable.

There are two steps to the exercise: 1) a breast massage and 2) a pelvic contraction called "holding firm," which is similar to a kegel exercise. Read more

Masturbation for Women and Girls

2011-09-01T06:00:00.002-04:00

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross answer your questions on female masturbation, including tension orgasms, post-menopausal penetration, and hypersensitive clitorises.

Darn Good Orgasms: A Woman’s Guide To Self-Pleasure teaches you how to have your best orgasms, starting today. Now you can discover the 4-part, step-by-step technique and start having incredible orgasms. Once you know the technique, you can use it over and over and your orgasms will just keep getting better. To find out more, click here!

Five Ways to Increase Female Sexual Pleasure

2011-08-30T06:00:00.015-04:00

Understanding a woman's sexual response can be difficult, for both men and even women themselves. After all, many women fail to achieve orgasms through partner sex. Also, while women usually know what they do like, they are often as clueless as their partners about what they might like. These five tips are for men and women who really want to increase a woman's sexual pleasure.

1) Stimulate her brain.

The brain is perhaps a woman's most overlooked sex organ. Imagine that you are making love to her mind. By being playful and flirtacious you will arouse her emotions, a strong component in a woman's desire for and enjoyment of sex. Women love "dirty" talk. If you're shy, try texting, emailing, or leave a voice message on her phone. Women are much more emotionally driven than men, so if you can arouse with her emotionally, you are much more likely to arouse her sexually.

2) Remember that a woman's whole body is her sex organ.

For men, sexual pleasure is generally limited to one area. (I'm sure you can guess the location.) However, for women, their whole body is filled with nerve endings that create a sexual response. Spend some time discovering which part of your female partner's body responds to touch. Some women have even reported having an orgasm just by being kissed or touched on their neck or nipples!

3) Use the "neck to nipples" technique. The area between a woman's head and breasts can be extremely sensitive. Use your hands, mouth, and even your hair to explore the area thoroughly. Kissing and gentle nibbling can create a range of sensations. Few men spend enough time in this area, yet it is one of a woman's most sensitive zones.

4) Try an inner leg massage. The inner leg area from the toes to the tops of the thighs is very sensitive for a woman. Have your partner lie on her back with her legs relaxed and slightly apart. Start at the toes and work your way upwards, paying particular attention to the ankles, knees, and inner thighs.

5) Find her G spot. The G spot is a small area (about the size of a quarter) about two inches inside the vagina on the upper wall. If you put your index finger inside her and make a stroking motion towards you (as if beckoning someone), you should be able to feel it (if she's sexually aroused). It will feel slightly rougher than the surrounding tissue. Stroking it or pressing firmly with one or two fingers while you stimulate the clitoris is one way to really intensify a woman's orgasm.

Communicate these five way to increase female sexual pleasure to your lover and incorporate them into your sex life. They're sure to make sex a more pleasurable experience for both of you.

Bring Your Woman to Orgasm with the Coital Alignment Technique

2011-08-27T06:00:00.001-04:00

If your female partner doesn't orgasm from intercourse, the Coital Alignment Technique provides the clitoral stimulation that many sex positions do not, according to Svetlana Ivanova.

The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) is a sex position combined with a sexual movement technique that facilitates clitoral orgasm. Sometimes called the “greatest sexual position in the world,” the “new and improved missionary position,” and the “new intercourse,” this technique replaces deep thrusting with subtle, coordinated rocking.

Most women need to have clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Traditional thrusting in the missionary position seldom achieves this because the clitoris is about an inch (2-3 cm) closer to the front of the woman’s body than the vaginal opening. Therefore, it’s possible, even probable, that thrusting either misses the clitoris altogether, or that clitoral stimulation is indirect or sporadic. The CAT allows the man and woman’s combined thrusting to do the job. Read more

How to Give a Woman a G-Spot Orgasm

2011-08-25T06:00:00.001-04:00

Dan and Jennifer reveal how to give a woman a G-spot orgasm both with your fingers and through intercourse, plus you'll also discover the two biggest things that must happen before she'll be able to have a G-spot orgasm.

Anal Play for Beginners

2011-08-23T06:00:00.001-04:00

Once considered taboo, attitudes towards anal play have relaxed in the last two or three decades. Research shows that more and more people are enjoying anal play. In the US, a 2002 survey showed that 40% of men and 35% of women had tried anal sex with an opposite sex partner. If you're new to anal play, anal fingering is the best way to start experiencing anal pleasure. Follow these four steps to ensure a fun and pleasure first-time experience.

Cleanliness is essential with virtually all forms of this type of play. A bath or a shower is a great primer, and can be the start of the festivities. Once your finger(s) have been inside her anus, don't put them anywhere else until you wash them. Carelessness in this regard can cause a very serious infection. Assess their responses to your actions and react accordingly.

Without going too close to her anus, explore her inner thighs and bottom with your hands and mouth. Some women have had bad experiences with anal play in their history, mostly because their partner moved much faster, or less gently, than they should have. If this is true in your case, getting her to talk about the topic is a great way to start. By learning where they went wrong, you can prevent that experience from happening again.

Make sure to have a good lubricant, use plenty of it, and start as slowly as possible. Apply a fair amount of lubricant on your finger, and start by making little circles around her anus with a finger. If you feel her clenching her anus, you need to find a way to help her relax, as progressing deeper while she is 'tight' will only cause another bad experience. Kissing her on the mouth and all over her body or performing cunnilingus, are just a couple of ways to ease her anxieties. If you get a chance to put on some music and candles ahead of time, it should help her be more comfortable.

Once inside, you can start playing to see what she likes. Start slowly and gently, and make sure to pay attention to her reactions when you speed up and/or add pressure. A few moves to get you started are moving your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of her rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, or rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three, or more of them together. Always remember that it is a very sensitive area; so be gentle and watch her reactions before going further.

If your partner is not open to this form of sexual play, don't force the issue! If your partner refuses, try to open her up to the idea by exploring the area more often with your hands. She'll slowly get used to being touched around there, and it won't seem as big of a deal. Ultimately, however, if your partner says "no,"then accept it graciously and try something else you both like!

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Pelvic Bouncing for Better Orgasms

2011-08-20T06:00:00.009-04:00

Jennifer Lawless says a quick, simple exercise called pelvic bouncing can enhance your orgasm.

Some Tantric exercises are quick, simple, and require no previous training. Tantric pelvic bouncing will tone your buttocks and enhance your orgasm. It's extremely easy to do, and the resulting surge of energy you will feel after a session of pelvic bouncing will make you ready for lovemaking.

To begin a session, lie on your back with knees bent and your feet flat on the bed or floor about hips-width apart. Have your arms by your sides with your palms facing upwards. Breathe deeply for a few minutes to help release tension. Read more

Anal Play for Women

2011-08-18T06:00:00.002-04:00

New World Sex Educator Jaiya gives tips for how women can have great anal stimulation and pleasure.

6 Sex Positions to Try for Fun and Pleasure

2011-08-16T06:00:00.005-04:00

Sex is one area of your life that you definitely want to ensure has variety to keep it from becoming boring. There is more to sex than missionary and woman-on-top. Even simple variations on your favorite sex positions can increase your fun and pleasure. Here are six sex positions that you can try for more fun and pleasure.

1) The woman lying on her back and the man lying on his side with one of her legs between his.

This is a very visual sex position for the man because he is also able to see his penis moving in and out of his woman. The man is also able to stimulate his woman's clitoris in this position. This is a variation on the missionary position, but is a bit less tiring for the man.

2) The woman lying on her back with a cushion underneath and the man kneeling in front between woman's legs.

This sex position raises the woman's hips, allowing the man to penetrate her at a different angle to the standard missionary position. It is also a visually exciting position for the man.

3) The couple lying side by side with the man behind.

While sometimes called "spooning," this sex position involves actual penetration rather than just cuddling. The woman may lean forward slightly to allow a better angle of entry.

4) The woman lying flat on her stomach with the man on top.

This is a variation of the doggy sex position except the woman is lying flat rather than being on her knees. The man lies on top of her, also flat, although using his elbows for support. This is a wonderfully sensual position. It allows the man to feel the entire length of his woman's body, including being able to kiss her neck. It can also give the woman a feeling of being totally under her man's control which for many women, in the right situation, can be highly erotic. This is a great position for when the two of you are not feeling particularly energetic for sex. It can be a wonderful way to make love late at night, just before sleep.

5) The woman sitting on the man, facing away.

This sex position is visually exciting for the man since he gets a good view of his woman's buttocks and anus. He could also tickle her anus lightly while in this position. If the woman puts her weight on her knees, the man can control the penetration with his hips and also by holding his woman's hips with his hands. The woman can lean slightly forward, which will put added pressure on the base of the penis and the back wall of her vagina.

6) The couple standing with the man behind and the woman leaning forward.

Make sure that the woman has something firm to lean on, such as a bed or wall. This sex position can be great for a "quickie."

Varying the sexual positions used in a relationship can do a lot to keep your love life fresh and exciting. Of course, traditional favorites, such as missionary, are wonderful, but experiment with the six positions described above and communicate with your partner about which positions you like the best.

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The Efflects of Kegel Exercises on Female Orgasm

2011-08-13T06:00:00.002-04:00

Since the pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that that surround the vaginal opening and contract rhythmically during orgasm, it is not surprising that sex therapist emphasize the importance of the PC muscles in the orgasmic response. Nevertheless, there is controversy over the exact effects of the PC muscles on orgasmic response but certain benefits of a strong pelvic floor are well accepted.

A fitter, well-toned pelvic floor will almost certainly increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner, and it can dramatically improve your sexual confidence. The physiological reasons for the improvement go far beyond the increased tactile sensations resulting from a tighter vagina.

Kegel exercises create an increase in pelvic vascularity which means more blood flow and more veins in the pelvic region. This will increase your awareness of the clitoral and vaginal sensations that lead to orgasm. Any stronger muscle will contract more powerfully than would a flabby muscle; therefore, the likelihood of stronger orgasms is much higher with stronger PC muscles.

With regular Kegel exercise, many women report being able to experience vaginal orgasm for the first time. Women also report more intense and more frequent multiple and G-spot orgasms. Probably the most important thing about doing Kegel exercises, though, is that you will become more familiar with your pelvis and more likely to take ownership of your internal and external genitalia. By strengthening the muscles that contract during orgasm, you are taking control of your orgasmic response.

Are Kegel exercises a major component in a becoming orgasmic? The jury is still out on that one, but they are certainly something non-orgasmic women should include in their quest for the "Big O."

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The A-Spot: What Is It and How to Find It

2011-08-11T07:00:00.001-04:00

The clitoris and g-spot you've heard of, but the A-spot? Here's what it is, how to find it, and what to do with it when you do.

3 Cunnilingus Tips Guaranteed to Make Her Orgasm Tonight

2011-08-09T06:00:00.004-04:00

A lot of women have difficulties receiving pleasure and climaxing from someone else's touch, so you need to be able to find a surefire way to give her the kind of pleasure that you are looking to give. The only way to make that happen is with oral sex. Twice as many women can reach orgasm from cunnilingus as can from intercourse. However, you need to perform oral sex on a woman the right way. These three cunnilingus tips are guaranteed to bring her to an orgasm tonight.

1) Concentrate on the clitoris.

Teasing her by kissing and caressing all over her vulva is a great warm-up for the main event, but clitoral stimulation is what will bring her to orgasm. Once you've warmed her up, concentrate on the clitoris. Direct licks, side-to side, or even a little suction are all fine, but stay focused.

2) Use your fingers to stimulate her G-spot.

Your fingers offer your woman a different kind of stimulation that your tongue and mouth just can't do. Once a woman is highly aroused, she often craves penetration. However, men assume the “in-out” action is most pleasurable. (Ouch!) In fact, the in-out motion of a finger can become more irritating than stimulating. The most pleasurable sensation comes from applying pressure to the vaginal walls, particularly the G-spot. Using more than one finger may increase the pleasure felt in some women as it stimulates the vaginal walls, which may also stimulate the G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled. Using your fingers doubles the stimulation, and this means double her chances of climaxing from cunnilingus.

3) Take your time.

Remember that this is not a race. Most women can't climax in five minutes or less. If you go faster or harder on her, that doesn't necessarily mean that it is going to feel better ot that she is going to climax faster. In fact, it will actually slow down the process. If you want to please her in the best way possible, you need to take your time.

Cunnilingus is a wonderful way to show a woman that care about giving her sexual pleasure. It is the most reliable way to bring her to orgasm, but only if you do it the right way. So, concentrate on the clitoris, use your fingers to stimulate her G-spot, and give her enough time to respond. You'll be amazed at what ha

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Two Sex Positions That Make Your Man's Penis Feel Bigger

2011-08-06T07:00:00.002-04:00

If you have a boyfriend or husband who just doesn't make you feel completely filled during sex, Svetlana Ivanova says changing positions can make his penis feel longer and thicker.

If you find that your man’s penis is too small, changing positions can make it feel longer and thicker. Two of most men’s favorite sex positions are doggy-style (rear entry) and missionary (man on top). Fortunately, these are two of the easiest to adjust to make your man’s penis feel bigger inside you. Read more

Improve Female Ejaculation with Kegel Exercises

2011-08-05T06:00:00.002-04:00

You may have heard of female ejaculation, or you may not even know what it is, as many people do not. Female ejaculation is not only very real, it is something that ALL women can achieve. It is a very basic female sexual response that has remained a mystery until recently. Female ejaculation should not be confused with urination although it may feel very similar when highly aroused. How many of you have been so turned on during sex that you found the sudden, inexplicable urge to urinate? Thinking that you are about to pee, you have restrained yourself and held back the sensation, thus depriving yourself of an ejaculation of fluid that goes along with an intense orgasm.

If you are new to female ejaculation, you have to learn how to stimulate your G-spot first. You can stimulate your G-spot area manually or by a penis or vibrator. For that, you first have to work on your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles.These are the muscles that both men and women use to stop the flow of urine. They are also the same muscles that contract and expand during orgasm. Kegel exercises are used to strengthen the PC muscles. Strengthening these muscles have the added benefit of greatly increasing the intensity of your orgasms.

Sexual benefits of Kegel exercises

1) Strong PC muscles will help you overcome the "I have to pee" feeling during the G-spot stimulation.

2) With the PC muscles stretched out because of lack of tone, less of the vagina and G-spot area is in direct contact with the penis, which, therefore, receives less stimulation. That results in less sensation for both you and your partner.

3) Well-toned PC muscles will give you a powerful ejaculation. By keeping the PC muscles strong with Kegels, you will have greater blood flow to this area and a greater ability to become aroused and feel sexual pleasure.

Basic Kegel exercises

The great thing about Kegel exercises is that no one can tell that you are doing them. You can do them while driving, standing in line at the bank, watching television, etc. While there are all sorts of variations, here is how to do basic Kegels:

1) Contract your PC muscles. Hold for a count of five. Build up gradually to a count of twenty. Repeat ten times and practice daily. As with all muscles, you should strengthen the PC muscle slowly and regularly.

2) You can also add quick Kegels. Contract and release the muscle for ten seconds. Relax for ten seconds and then do it again. Do 5-10 repetitions.

3) Try a "rolling" Kegel with your PC muscle. Squeeze only at the entrance to your vagina at first, and then "roll" the contraction up the length of your vagina and back down. Do 5-10 repetitions.

Besides the sexual benefits, Kegel exercises have other benefits for women. Due to weakened pelvic floor musculature, women can have urinary or bowel incontinence. This weakness is cured by Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises also help prevent prolapse of the vagina or uterus that can be caused by childbirth and old age.

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How to Female Ejaculate

2011-08-04T06:00:00.002-04:00

New World Sex Educator Jaiya talks about how you can learn to female ejaculate. What is female ejaculate? Can all women do it?

3 Common Myths about the Female Orgasm

2011-08-03T06:00:00.001-04:00

The female orgasm is a phenomenon misunderstood by most men and even by women, themselves. While there are false ideas regarding male orgasm, I’m going to focus more on the mysteries surrounding female orgasm. Let me share with you three of the most common myths about the female orgasm:

Myth 1: The larger the penis, the greater the chance of female orgasm.

Men have worried for ages about the size of their penis. The truth is that size really doesn't matter all that much when it comes to female orgasm. Since only the first two inches of a woman's vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from the woman's physical perspective. In fact, when men are overly concerned with the size of their penis and whether it's sufficient, their minds aren't focused on pleasuring their partner, and that is no way to experience female orgasm.
A survey done by the Kinsey Institute found that the average size of an erect penis measured from the tip to where it connects with the rest of the body is 6.16 inches (15.65 centimeters) in length. The girth of an erect penis is 4.84 inches (12.29 centimeters) on average. Both of these statistics are come as a surprise to men and to women who have been convinced by porn that the average size of an erect penis is eight or nine inches. That same Kinsey study actually found that less than 2% of men have penises that large.

Remember whether a man's penis size is below, above, or just average, he still has the ability to help his partner reach orgasm, and that is far more worthy of praise than a few extra inches of penis.

Myth 2: Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms.

All women have different preferences when it comes to orgasm. Some women enjoy the sensation of a clitoral orgasm, while others enjoy the intensity of the vaginal orgasm. The basic point is this: Both can be equally satisfying. One erogenous zone is not better than the other. It is simply a matter of individual preference.

The only reason vaginal orgasms are regarded as the Holy Grail of ecstasy is how infrequently they occur. Statistically speaking, it’s estimated that 30% of women will never even experience one and only 30% do so with regularity. Clitoral orgasms are wonderful, and there is no reason to pity a woman who hasn’t experienced an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.

Myth 3: A woman must have an orgasm to feel sexually satisfied.

Most women have had the experience of being asked by their partner during sex if they are going to climax. This myth is the reason for that question. The majority of men believe that sex without an orgasm is not pleasurable for a woman, but that's not true. First of all, even though orgasms are a wonderful part of the sexual experience, there is more involved than that. For couples, sex is generally a physical expression of love and closeness. Many women report enjoying this part of the experience immensely even when it is not followed by an orgasm.

Second, just because there's no climax that doesn't mean the rest of the experience didn't feel good. An orgasm is an intense, pleasurable feeling, but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman. Just as men enjoy the actual act of intercourse, so do women.

Third, when men ask about whether or not a woman is going to climax, he is putting pressure on her to deliver. This often leads to faking orgasms, which actually detracts from her experience and could detract from his as well if he discovers the truth. While orgasms can be utterly amazing, it’s a shame we don’t value the process that goes into attaining one and simply enjoy the journey.

So there you have it: three common female orgasm myths totally debunked though I doubt that men will ever believe that the first one isn't true. It seems to be hardwired into the male brain. If men just try to ensure that sex if fun and pleasurable for their partners, the orgasms will probably take care of themselves. And even when she doesn't have an orgasm, she will still be having the time of her life!

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How to Enjoy Anal Sex

2011-08-02T06:00:00.020-04:00

If you're feeling like one day you woke up and suddenly it was all about anal, you're not alone. The question is, can women enjoy anal sex? Thankfully, the answer is yes! Many women love it and even prefer it to vaginal sex, experiencing more intense, full body orgasms with anal. Anal sex is not for everyone but if you have tried it once, maybe twice before, with painful results, you may not have taken the full necessary measures to prepare the body. So how do you learn how to have anal sex properly and get some of that pleasure for yourself?

When beginning anal sex, your body cannot be at its most relaxed when your mind is not at ease. Enjoy an erotic shower with your partner beforehand and get squeaky clean everywhere. It also should go without saying that a pre-sex bowel movement is essential. When it's not possible to go on command, over-the-counter enemas are a popular and effective way to ensure your peace of mind.

Now that you are clean, your body then needs to be aroused to the point where you can't wait for anal penetration to begin. Along with regular foreplay, it is best to also participate in anallingus. If you don't feel comfortable with the idea of your partner's tongue up your butt, you may need a rethink. You are preparing for a large, erect penis to enter a very tigh,t downward chute. The sensation of a loving partner tickling and teasing, licking, and blowing is a very sensible way to prepare your whole body and mind for the bigger and better things to come.

Before attempting penetration you must first apply lubricant liberally all over his penis. Also, have him insert it right up into your anus using his fingers. Doggy style is the most popular position for anal sex. However, your muscles are far more relaxed in the missionary position. As well as allowing for easier insertion, missionary position is also beneficial for beginners due to its intimate nature. You can continue to kiss, and talk to each other directly, guiding him to continue further or stop when you need a break.

When you are ready, breathe out and "push out" as he begins to push in. You may feel a stretch or a pinch. Insertion is the hardest part of the process, and it should never be forced. When you are ready, it will be easier to build momentum once his penis gets past a certain point, usually a couple of inches past your opening.

Many people falter with anal sex when the penis hits the internal sphincter. Because you can't control it, its normal reaction is to contract and tighten when a finger or penis is poking at it from the other end. However, it can only tighten for a certain length of time before it tires and loosens on its own. With gentle persistence, usually after about a minute, the muscle will stop contracting and relax. At this point, you should be able to continue with slow pain-free insertion.

Continue slowly, always talking to your partner. As he moves in further, you may have the feeling that you need to go to the toilet. If you have done everything to prepare beforehand, this is only a natural reflex. Your body is used to pushing objects out the other way. Stop for a moment until the urge passes.

If you are finding anal sex painful it is important to stop and retrace your steps. Your body probably wasn't prepared as much as it could have been. Practice and good preparation should lead not only to a pain-free experience, but also to an enjoyable one.

Thinking about how to have anal sex for the first time is a lot like considering vaginal sex as a virgin. It's a little scary and a little exciting. You're expecting a bit of pain, and you know it will be awkward, but still you trust all the information you have ever received, you know you will eventually enjoy it. So why should anal sex be any different?

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Tantric Cunnilingus: Worshiping the Yoni

2011-07-30T07:00:00.002-04:00

If you love giving or receiving cunnilingus, Jennifer Lawless tells how to do it the Tantric way.

... Yoni is the Sanskrit word for the vagina. In Tantra, the yoni is a sacred part of the female body, which must be cherished and honored. Yoni worship is a very ancient tradition in India, which is still alive today. Both men and women benefit from yoni worship. It is an honoring and active participation in the dance between cosmic complementary polarities.

Tantric cunnilingus is an act of worship. This sacred, erotic ritual extends far beyond arousal and orgasm. Tantric cunnilingus is a deep, non-verbal communication between lovers, used to balance and harmonize the moods and energy of the couple. Read more

Masturbation: Fingers vs. Sex Toys

2011-07-28T20:20:00.001-04:00

Dan and Jennifer discuss the pros and cons of fingers vs. sex toys for masturbation.

Darn Good Orgasms: A Woman’s Guide To Self-Pleasure teaches you how to have your best orgasms, starting today. Now you can discover the 4-part, step-by-step technique and start having incredible orgasms. Once you know the technique, you can use it over and over and your orgasms will just keep getting better. To find out more, click here!

3 Great Positions to Hit Your G-Spot during Sex

2011-07-26T07:00:00.008-04:00

Are you are looking for the best sex positions to hit your G-spot during sex? While the scientific community may still be divided on the G-spot’s existence, ask any woman who has had a G-spot orgasm, and she’ll tell you that it’s definitely there.

Where is the G-spot? When a woman is lying on her back, her Grafenberg Area (G-spot) is located roughly 1.5 inches inside her vagina on the upper wall. Manual stimulation of the G-spot may be the easiest way to explore its possibilities, but you can also incorporate it into sexual intercourse. If you choose the right positions, you’ll have a greater chance of hitting her G-spot.

1) Woman on Top
This position is excellent because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. As you are on top, experiment with what feels best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feels good, rock back and forth, take him deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused. (This is true with all these G-spot sex positions.)

2) Crouching, Man Coming from Behind

In this position, the man can let the his partner do all the work. In this case, the woman should use her thighs to press back and find the depth, thrustingt style, and position that works best for her. However, men can easily be active in this position by pushing the woman down, and lying more on top of her (still coming in from behind).

For the best G-spot stimulation, the man should position his legs outside of hers and put more of his weight forward so that he is riding her from up higher. This puts his penis on more of a downward angle, and helps him hit her G-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.

3) Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders

You can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, your coffee table, or you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling instead of standing. The only real key to this position is that the woman is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on the man's shoulders. When you want to hit the G-spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable.

If G-spot stimulation is what you and your partner would like to explore than I highly recommend trying all three of these best sex positions for couples. Experiment and communicate with each other and before you know it, these will be a part of your repertoire.

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How Women Can Learn to Have an Orgasm with Intercourse

2011-07-23T07:00:00.001-04:00

Most women can have orgasms with masturbation or oral sex, but many cannot climax during penis-in-vagina sex. If you're one of them, Svetlana Ivanova how to learn to have an orgasm during intercourse.

Surveys reveal that only about 30 percent of women have orgasms with intercourse, but most of the other 70 percent could develop this ability if they only knew how. Women who are already orgasmic with masturbation, manual stimulation by a partner, or oral sex can learn to transfer this ability to vaginal intercourse. Though all orgasms are pleasurable, climax with your man deep inside you is uniquely satisfying.

One of the main barriers that prevents women from being orgasmic during intercourse is a weak pubococcygeal (PC) muscle. This is the muscle that surrounds the opening of the vagina and supports the pelvic floor. It is also the muscle that spasms when you have an orgasm. If your PC muscle is weak, it may be difficult for it to spasm when there is an object in your vagina. To strengthen your PC muscle, follow this vaginal strengthening exercise routine. Read more

Sex Enhancers and Sexual Herbs

2011-07-21T07:00:00.001-04:00

In this video, Dr. Vincent Bellonzi tells you natural herbal sex enhancers to improve sex, maintain an erection, promote vagina lubrication, and sexual performance without resorting to drugs like Viagra.

3 Ways for Women to Have More Sexual Pleasure and Orgasms

2011-07-19T07:00:00.007-04:00

Many women are not experiencing the sexual pleasure and orgasms that they could and should be enjoying. It's not completely the fault of men, either. That's not to let men off the hook completely. However, before a man can bring us to orgasm, we need to be ready and willing.

1) Be confident about your body. If you are not confident undressing in front of your partner, you may not be confident enough to communicate to your partner on how to bring you to that peak of sexual pleasure. Confidence plays a big role in sexual satisfaction because it allows you to relax and open up to your partner. If your body isn't perfect, join the club. Whatever flaws you think you have, you far more aware of them than your man is. Be confident about your body.

2) Know where and how to stimulate. If you are a woman trying to achieve orgasm, you may need to practice and learn on your own before you can teach your partner. Keep in mind that women can reach orgasm in different ways. Clitoral stimulation is the most common, but some women can reach climax with penetration. Of course, the better you know yourself and what brings you the most pleasure, the easier you can help yourself to achieve orgasm.

3) Communication during sex. Another important way to help achieve sexual pleasure and orgasm is to communicate with your partner. Men don't seem to be very good mind readers. Don't turn sex into a "test." Expecting your partner to just know where and how you like to be touched is unfair to him and likely to be frustrating to you if he "fails." Communicate during sex so that your partner can give you the sexual pleasure and orgasms you desire.

Not experiencing the sexual pleasure and orgasms you can and should be enjoying is frustrating, but to change that, women need to start with themselves. Being confident about your body, knowing where and how to stimulate, and communicating during sex are three ways for women to have more sexual pleasure and orgasms. You're the most important person in determining how good your sex life will be.